Electricity

Ever meet someone that you know you will have great sex with? You just can tell somehow.
With other people you have to think about what they would be like in bed - creepy, exciting, cheesy.
But with some people, you just get this feeling of electricity that seems to light up every important part of your body. If it's a really great connection, you don't even have to speak to each other, you can feel it the first time your eyes meet. Not in any romantic, meant to be together kind of way. Just physically.
And then, when you do speak, you are sort of amazed by how right your instincts were because you feel like you know the person intimately - somehow.
The flirting is so easy and fun with these people, because it is so effortless.

I guess these experiences are more and less exciting for me because I am married. In a way it's more exciting because nothing can happen and that is out there right away, so the flirting has no limits in a way. I can be as daring as I want because they should know I won't be going home with them.

The less exciting part is the no sex part. I mean come on... it's like a rip off if you think about it. How many people do we have these kinds of instantaneous reactions with in a lifetime? 3000, 300 or 30?
For me, it would be closer to 30, although lately it has been rising quite steadily.
I don't know why.

That doesn't mean that all I think about is having sex with other people, but in a way, it's like when you are a child and you're told you can't have something anymore and then all you want is that one thing.
Wait, I guess that doesn't just go for children, but for anyone.
Especially coke addicts. Or beer junkies.

I was talking about dating with my mom (which is a strange thing to have to get used to) because last week she went on her first date since leaving my dad. Not only was it her first date, but she went out with a guy much younger than her. He's actually my age which didn''t freak me out all that much. I guess TV works and I've seen enough of Demi and Ashton to be okay with all sorts of things. Although, I don't think my dad went on the date, or even knows about it.
He would freak. Unlike good, old Bruce.

But my mom is out of touch with dating and sexuality and the whole thing, so it will be an interesting experience for her. When she used to date, people didn't automatically sleep together on the first date.
She's cool though, so a lot of younger guys have been hitting on her. She's only in her 40's so I guess that's not such a weird thing these days. One lady I know in her 70's keeps a pack of condoms by her bed for when she brings gentlemen callers home.

That's why I think it's so funny when people who are my age think that when they get married and find a house they will be settled. Almost like they are a TV couple and their show is ending. That's all she wrote folks.
But life and marriage are not like that. The marriage is just the beginning of the journey. You have to figure out a way to make it change with you as you find out new things about yourself. I don't believe there is any such thing as settling. It's more like waiting.

At least in my experience.